THEY WILL ASK thee as to what they should spend on others. Say: "Whatever of your wealth you spend shall [first] be for your parents, and for the near of kin, and the orphans, and the needy, and the wayfarer; and whatever good you do, verily, God has full knowledge thereof." - Al-Baqarah (2:215)

Monday, 1 June 2009

Young, single and ... (part 4)

Yesterday I attended a workshop on the subject 'Hak wanita dalam perundangan Islam.' It was for a limited number of participants and so it was a small group. When each of us had to introduce ourselves, I was sort of the odd one out - the others were from Perak Women for Women, or Persatuan Ibu Tunggal, or university students, or JKM. Suddenly this lady introduced herself as someone from a support group for the HIV infected. So during lunch break, quite a number approached me to ask about the work that I do. A few of them, especially from Persatuan Ibu Tunggal, thought they had so many problems in their lives, but when they heard about the HIV women I've been dealing with, they became so thankful that their lives weren't that bad.

Anyway, during the workshop, I mentioned about Sharifah (didn't mention her name lah). So during the tea break, one lady who looked so familiar approached me and told me that she wouldn't mind taking care of the baby if Sharifah and family wanted to give the baby away. She thought the baby is sure to be infected and yet she still offered to take care of the baby. I explained to her that the baby may be safe if we take the necessary precautions. The lady runs a shelter home for unfortunate kids including the disabled. No wonder lah she looked familiar - I've visited the home before they shifted to another place. I took her name card and told her I'd get in touch with her after I discuss further with Sharifah's mom.

Last night, I finally got to meet Sharifah's mom. Sharifah has an appointment at Ipoh GH today, and since I had requested to meet up personally with her mom, Puan Nur (the mom lah) came along. Puan Nur is oh so young. I ended up having both mother and daughter calling me kakak!

Today I called the lady who agreed to take care of the baby. To my surprise, she also offered temporary shelter for Sharifah as well, although her home doesn't cater for HIV people. I quickly called Sharifah to inform her and Puan Nur. Puan Nur was out to buy lunch. So I just conveyed the message to Sharifah and told her to inform her mom and get back to me if they agree to the arrangement.

Within 15 minutes Puan Nur called me back. She was happy I managed to get a place in Perak for Sharifah. KL to her is rather far, but if she had no choice, she'd still send Sharifah there.

So that problem is now settled. Now we'll just have to wait for Sharifah to deliver the baby. That will be in about 2 weeks time. Meanwhile Sharifah will be staying in the vacant flat house, courtesy of the kind hearted owner of the unit. Puan Nur is going home today as she needs to take care of her younger children at home - and had asked me to please look out for Sharifah until the date of delivery.

So now it's like I am the one waiting for the arrival of my cucu... ;)


Kerp (Ph.D) said...

its a cliche thing to say but it normally works. when you think you're a sad case, there are those who are much worse off.

and lets hope for the best, that the baby will be delivered safely and free from HIV, insyaAllah.

mamasita said...

Hai're fairy godmother if not a grandma! hehehe

Pi Bani said...

Based on my own experience dealing with pregnant ladies and babies before this, I am very hopeful that this baby will be free from HIV.

Kerja I dok ferry orang sana-sini. So maybe ferry godmother is more like it... :)

Kak Teh said...

pi bani, baik betul orang tu mahu menolong. and of course, you pun apa kurang. Sometimes we feel we are the only ones lumbered wth problems but if we stop beng self centred, we see that there are others worse off.

Oh abt award tu....Tunggu sekejaaaap!

Pi Bani said...

Kak Teh,
That's the advantage of getting involved in this kind of voluntary work - we are exposed to all sorts of problems others face... tutup ruang to be self centred.

And yes, I memang akan tungguuuu...

sherry said...

Salam Che PI kite.

Alhamdulilah Allah dah permudahkan..nak tunggu cucu pulak lah ye..lepas ni i nak panggil you Tok Kakak PI ..sesuailah kan..since Puan Nor and Sharifah panggil u, that baby pun should tak tinggal the word kakak tu kan...

Pi Bani said...

I orang Perak le... panggil Opah...

mekyam said...

dear pi,

maybe "oprah" lebih sesuai.

while you may not have her billions, tapi you have a heart just as big and compassionate.

u are also prettier, younger & slimmer, of course. :D

Pi Bani said...

Yang you dok puji I lebih-lebih ni apasal? Trying to bodek me to get that anugerah khas juri ke? Kah! Kah! Kah!

mekyam said...


ikhlas, from one totally awed with what you do and quite whelmed with the stories of yr cases.

sumpah mafia & may the blogistan's cosa nostra forever disown me if there's even one shelled or unshelled langoustine di sebalik all the al dente fiorentines! :D

Pi Bani said...

Amboi Mekyam punya bahasa... I surrender lah macam ni! Haha!