THEY WILL ASK thee as to what they should spend on others. Say: "Whatever of your wealth you spend shall [first] be for your parents, and for the near of kin, and the orphans, and the needy, and the wayfarer; and whatever good you do, verily, God has full knowledge thereof." - Al-Baqarah (2:215)
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Thursday 11 December 2008

Brief Updates

Just some brief updates before I go MIA again...

1. We can't get enough volunteers to take part in the HIV/AIDS exhibition in Taiping this weekend, so we had to opt out of participating. Sigh...

2. Razif finally told his wife about his HIV infection without having to lie. I don't really know yet how his wife took the news but the fact that she agreed to join him for the HAART Workshop next week indicates that she didn't take it too bad after all. I still don't have an idea if she herself has been tested though...

3. Fuzi's second daughter has managed to get her MyKad done without much problems because she got an uncle (Fuzi's late husband's brother - a Malaysian) to go with her to JPN. The first daughter's MyKad application is still facing lots of obstacles because the application was done by Fuzi, a non-Malaysian. The earlier application (done last year) is now cancelled and a new application has to be submitted. Fuzi will now try the same method as the 2nd daughter ie get the uncle to help them. Only problem is, the uncle has to be PAID to do the job. Sigh...

4. I gained 2.5 kgs on Hari Raya Haji. Thank goodness Raya is not every day...

24 comments:

Anonymous said...

Komen Pak Malim kucing ray yg alim.

Baguslah Razif memberitahu perkara yg benar kpd isterinya, kata Singa Narnia. Hidup tak boleh berterusan dgn menipu, kata Pak Malim sambil memegang penyapu.

Kak Teh said...

Pi Bani,
some rays of light there.

pt 4. do you yourself need support with this?

have another good break.

mamasita said...

Whenever I read your posting,both article combined with the beautiful song make me shed a tear.And this is the 3rd time.How do you cope facing people in need of help?I know its your job but still, its a tough job keeping the tears at bay right?May Allah Bless You!

Pi Bani said...

Pak Malim,
Betul tu, tak aman hidup ni kalau terus-terusan menipu, kata Pi Bani sambil basuh rambut dengan syampu.


Kak Teh,
Raya dua kali je setahun, takpe... I think I can live with the extra 2.5kgs... which hopefully will kureng sikit-sikit before the next raya. ;)


Mamasita,
FYI, I'm the type yang susah sikit nak keluar airmata... keras hati ke apa ke tak tau lah. Only bila dah sebak sangat-sangat baru berlenang airmata. Tapi kalau depan Kaabah, tak boleh tahan... (sedar diri dah banyak buat dosa!)

Salt N Turmeric said...

Dgn anak buah sendiri pun mintak bayaran?? Ish malas nak cakap! Happy that 1 problem is settled and may Allah pay back 'jasa' that uncle yg 'membantu' anak yatim. :P

Pi Bani said...

Farina,
Tu lah pasal, dengan anak buah sendiri pun nak berkira! Maybe he didn't agree that his brother married Fuzi in the first place, but still, budak-budak tu masih tetap anak sedara dia kan? Imagine, Fuzi still has 3 more kids under 12. Puaslah the uncle 'berjasa' kat budak-budak tu...

Queen Of The House said...

After all the bad/sad news, #4 can't be so bad in comparison. Hehehe, rezeki tu, Pi!

Pi Bani said...

QOTH,
Hehehe... ni belum lagi makan daging korban...

Cherry said...

the uncle asking for payment ? bukan ke dia wali kepada budak2 tu, either he agree ke tidak of the marriage.
kalau takat mintak duit tambang tu rasanya boleh telan jugakle, but minta upah ... i am speechless.

Pi Bani said...

Cherry,
Yes, he is the wali to those kids. And yes, dia nak UPAH baru dia tolong. Tambang memang dah sah-sahlah Fuzi yang bayarkan. The upah (ratus-ratus mind you) is upah bersih, tak perlu tolak apa-apa kos dah. Macam-macam jenis manusia ada kat dunia ni...

Naz in Norway said...

Salam Pi Bani,
I have been here many times and love reading your posts and updates. Tabik spring!

Point 4... allowed! :)

Pak Zawi said...

Pi,
Bagi pak sedara camtu, upah untuk dapat mykad baru satu, besok nak jadi wali dia akan minta upah lagi. Manusia ke tu?

Pi Bani said...

Naz,
Thanks! As for #4, allowed or not, dah naik pun! :)


Pak Zawi,
I thought of that too, but hopefully by the time the girls want to get married, their brother dah cukup umur to be their wali.

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Kak Pi,

Hah...You only gain weight during Raya...I gain weight all year round!

=) See ya round!

Pi Bani said...

Daph,
Yeah, see ya square! Muahaha!

Kerp (Ph.D) said...

laa...i thought you said you'll be taking a long break. didnt know you had a new posting. maybe i should get one of that bloglist thing too lah.

so razif is still in one piece. thats goof enough to know...hehehe...i know, i know. its no laughing matter, and i apologise.

Pi Bani said...

Kerp,
Break, break juga, mengadap PC masih perlu juga. But nothing much to blog about pasal this month I lebih banyak bertumpu to my ofice work and family matters... nantilah hujung bulan insyaAllah back to my normal routine.

Typhoon Sue said...

it's sad when people are so unwilling to help others if there's nothing in it for them. it's even sadder if the people they're so unwilling to help are their own blood relatives.

tsk tsk tsk
aparra punya uncle

J.T. said...

Hi Pi

I am back from my slumber. :)
You are in good company re putting on weight cos' I gained some in the cold season (and usually do every year). Thank goodness it is not cold all year. :D

As for that uncle, nice piece of work, isn't he? Then again, there are relatives like that out there. They would not help out unless there is something for them to gain. I believe in "what goes around, comes around." He will be 're-paid' some day. I just hope that his 'repayment' will happen when all the children's MyKad issues are resolved since there is no one else (blood relative) to help with it.

Have a good holiday and all the best for 2009.

Pi Bani said...

Sue,
Not only are some people unwilling to render their help if there's nothing in it for them, they even think others wouldn't do anything for free either. Many people think I do get some sort of allowance for my voluntary work, despite it beig called 'voluntary'.


JT,
Yes, I too believe what goes around, comes around. As for us, we become more round sajalah... ;)

Mat Salo said...

2.5 Kilos. How 'bout FIVE!? That's what happened to me the last time around Idul Adha, bloggers do, teh tarik sessions with megadoses of roti canai... haiya, what to do now?

Happy Holidays ya?

Can't wait on Razif's follow-up . How he actually broke the news.. curious how do folks manage in such dire straits..

Pi Bani said...

Mat Salo,
Baru 5 kilo, tak apa... there's room for more.

Taking a break ni bukan pasal holidays tapi sibuk dengan kenduri kawin anak sedara. Any updates on any of my clients kena tunggu next year lah jawabnya...

Mrs.Zack said...

Salam, Pi Bani

Sepupu saya baru saja di sahkan ada HIV+ve, masalahnya kami semua tak tau nak handle dgn perkara cam nie. Kesian juga kat dia...coz tak ada sapa nak jaga. Terus terang kami mmg kurang ilmu ttg HIV+ve nie.

Lagi pun adik beradik dia macam tak mau jaga dia, walaupun doctor cakap suruh dia berdikari dan berusaha sendiri dan teruskan kehidupan spt biasa tapi bagi saya dia perlukan sokongan...masa skrg mungkin dia boleh hidup tanpa bantuan dari org terdekat tp lama kelamaan daya ketahanan badan dia dah tak kuat mesti dia perlukan seseorang utk meneruskan hidup.

So, saya nak tny sama ada Pi tau tak mana2 persatuan atau pertubuhan utk membantu org2 spt dia ni kat melaka. For info sepupu saya nie lelaki dan masih single...dapat penyakit ni dari hubungan seks bebas sesama lelaki

Pi Bani said...

Mrs. Zack,
Bantuan utama yang diperlukan oleh sepupu puan ialah sokongan moral - dan lebih baik lagi jika sokongan moral itu datangnya dari keluarga terdekat. Masalahnya jika semua orang nak menjauhkan diri dari dia, dia akan rasa tersisih, tak diperlukan dan mungkin akan timbul rasa lebih baik mati. Bila timbul keadaan begini, daya tahannya akan lebih cepat lemah.

Tidak ada apa yang perlu ditakutkan oleh keluarganya. Kain baju, makan minum semua tak jadi hal kalau berkongsi dengan dia. Cuma perlu berhati-hati jika terdapat luka terbuka (itupun jika kedua-dua mempunyai luka yang terbuka dan kedua-dua luka bersentuh). Sepatutnya walau siapa pun yang terluka kita tetap perlu berhati-hati. Dalam ertikata lain, kita hanya perlu layan dia macam biasa.

Mungkin dia telah melakukan kesilapan dalam hidupnya, tapi inilah masanya untuk kita membimbingnya kembali ke jalan yang diredhai. Kerana itulah kita tak boleh menyisihnya malah perlu memberi sokongan moral dan emosi.

Saya sendiri kurang pasti jika terdapat support group untuk pesakit-pesakit HIV di Melaka. Mungkin Mrs Zack boleh cuba menghubungi Majlis AIDS Malaysia di talian 03-40451033.

Atau jika perlu bincang lebih lanjut mengenai masalah ini secara lebih peribadi, boleh hubungi saya di alamat email pibani@yahoo.com