THEY WILL ASK thee as to what they should spend on others. Say: "Whatever of your wealth you spend shall [first] be for your parents, and for the near of kin, and the orphans, and the needy, and the wayfarer; and whatever good you do, verily, God has full knowledge thereof." - Al-Baqarah (2:215)

Friday, 27 April 2012

How complicated can complicated get?

Remember in my last posting I mentioned about the pregnant girl who is not only HIV+ but also on methadone? After finding out that her mother and older brother are both on shabu, we figured “home” is not the place to go to once she is discharged from the hospital. With all the info given to me by the doctor, I knew this was a complicated case and won’t be one easy to deal with. The doctor’s main concern was where this girl and her baby will go once discharged from the hospital.
Since this case is not in Ipoh, I haven’t gone to visit her yet. So instead I got a fellow volunteer who works in the town where the girl is to check on her and find out more details. After seeing quite a number of complicated cases earlier, I thought I had seen them all. But when my fellow volunteer came back to me with her report, things turned out to be even more complicated than I thought.
FACT: This girl, Maznah, was raped at 14. That was her first pregnancy. She was then sent to a shelter home under the Welfare Dept for 3 years. Her father, who was by then divorced with her mother, died while she was there at the shelter home. After that, Maznah & her 4 brothers, stayed with their mom (they previously stayed with their father).
FACT: Maznah’s older brother was caught for shabu and is now in jail. Maznah is no. 2. No. 3 was given away by her father to be taken care by someone else (he must be the lucky one I guess). No. 4 is working at a restaurant and no. 5, now 17, is staying with their mom.
FACT: Maznah has 3 more siblings from a different father, aged 6 to 13. Nope, not Maznah’s stepfather though. Maznah’s mother, who is also on shabu, didn’t remarry after her divorce. The 3 younger kids were born out of wedlock – all with the same boyfriend.
FACT: Maznah’s 13 year old half-sister, is also currently pregnant & now stays at a shelter home for problematic teenaged girls.
FACT: One of Maznah’s boyfriends had been regularly visiting her at the hospital, sending her food etc. So, why don’t they just get married? It seems Maznah herself does want to get married if this guy proposes to her, but right now she herself is unsure if he wants to.


Question: How complicated can complicated get?
Answer: As complicated as can be.

God help me please…

4 comments:

Hussin said...

Semoga Allah permudahkan jalan insan-insan yang membantu insan lain ke jalan yang lurus.

Life is definitely getting more complicated for the young nowadays. So where are the religious officers who are supposed to guide those who have deviated from the true teachings of religion? Are they busy following "unqualified" ustaz giving religious speeches without "tauliah"?

Edi said...

fuh.. mmg complicated hidup dia... what a family.. semoga dipermudahkan... mmm... betul.. mana religous officers yg sepatutnya guide dia supaya kembali kpd Islam...

Ummi Dania Yasmine said...

Complicated nyer citer ni yer kak pi

Ena

Al-Manar said...

When I read this kind of posting I ask myself what really makes certain individuals care to take pain to do what people at large just want to know but not to be involved?

I am certain the challenge is great enough to make you feel the great satisfaction when you are able to overcome it. Best of luck to you in your great effort.